Turn up the heat with Wax Play

Wax play is the action of dripping hot wax from a candle onto you or your partner’s skin, (usually in a sexy way but we’ll let you be the judge of that!). Wax play is often considered to be a part of BDSM, but it doesn’t necessarily mean it is BDSM. BDSM often eroticises the combination of pain and pleasure, and hot wax tends to be a thrilling combination of the two. There are a lot of reasons why people may enjoy engaging in wax play, and some of these reasons include the excitement of engaging in something a little dangerous and for others it could be the anticipation of waiting for the wax to hit your skin. It also stimulates your senses other than just touch, which enhances pleasure and helps you to be present in the moment. 

If you are interested in experimenting with wax play, there are a few things to note before getting into it. Firstly, as with any sexual act, it’s important that you ask for consent from your partner. Just because you have an interest in something, doesn’t mean they will be down for it too! As wax play isn’t the same as trying a new position, we recommend having an open and honest conversation about this away from the bedroom, while there is a little amount of sexual tension (maybe you can bring it up in conversation a few days before you plan on experimenting). This will allow your partner to really think about whether they are interested without feeling like it’s just a spur of the moment thing, or feeling uncomfortable to say no. If your partner agrees, then hooray! Our second tip is to try pouring the wax on yourself first, to see what it will feel like for your partner. This also allows you to pour the wax from different distances, to let you find the perfect balance between pain and pleasure.

For wax play, you want to ensure that you use a candle that is body safe and has a lower burning temperature so you don’t burn yourself! There are a lot of body-safe massage candles on the market. These are usually made from essential oils and have a low burning point. However, these tend to be quite expensive. If you’re unsure if you want to add wax play to your regular routine, you can also opt for cheaper, regular candles. However, please ensure that your candles are made from Soy or Paraffin as these have a lower burning temperature and are more skin friendly. Any candles made from beeswax or similar can result in burns and an unpleasant experience. Also it is better to avoid any candles with artificial colours, as this can cause skin irritation.

Wax play is a fun way to spice things up and explore your limits. As far as sexual acts go, it does require more pre-planning to ensure you have body-safe candles and all the things necessary to have a fun and safe experience. Whether you decide to experiment with wax play or another kink, being able to explore different sexual fantasies can enhance intimacy through shared experiences and the trust and respect involved in trying new things.