A question many of us ask while growing up and, often, throughout our lives is- Who am I?
We spend years exploring what gives our lives meaning & purpose, chasing dreams, creating, seeking experiences, building friendships, relationships, a family, and perhaps a legacy. All in the search of the understanding and expression of our unique, snowflake-y selves. We create ourselves to the best of our abilities, in the context of our world.
Regarding sexuality, this is no different. Our sexual desires may fluctuate & change, from ‘vanilla’ to hardcore kink & BDSM; from straight-as-an-arrow, to asexual to pansexual & everything LGBTQIA+; from cis-gendered to anywhere on the vast spectrum of Trans-, non-binary, & fluid gender identities. The possibilities of sexual & gender expression is endless.
There is a well-known quote in the sex-positive community:
"Sexual Orientation is who you go to bed WITH.... Gender Identity is who you go to be AS"