Managing Menage A Trois

10 must do threesome positions

So, you've prepared and are ready to explore that threesome after reading our last article How To Have A Threesome and now it’s time to get into the nitty gritty of actually having one. Whatever your sexual orientation might be, if you want to know how to navigate the menage-a-trois, here are 10 of the best positions to try for your next threesome.

1. The double cowgirl/boy/they

This position makes for great viewing for the two people on top. This position works by having one person lie on their back, while one person sits on their face and the other sits on their penis or penetrates their vagina or anus. This position has traditionally been for two vulvas and one penis, but feel free to get creative with your combinations.

2. The Train

Not too dissimilar to what the name infers, the train is a great position to ensure everyone gets their share of pleasure. This one can be used with any genital combination, where the first person in the train penetrates the second person with their penis or strap on, then the second person gives oral sex to the third partner. There’s a bit of fun for everyone with this one!

3. Double oral - any gender combination

Although it’s fun when everyone in a threesome gets their own share of pleasure, let’s not forget the pleasure that one can receive from pleasuring another. The double oral explores this by having two people go down on the third person. This position is particularly great if all parties are down to hook up with each either.

4. 69 - daisy chain

Cute name for a cute position. The daisy train involves everyone lying on their sides in a circle and each person giving head to the person next to them. So essentially, it’s the threesome version of a 69. If you like a twosome 69, put this one high on your threesome list!

5. Spit Roast

This might be one of the more well-known positions on this list. The Spit Roast is a position that has received a lot of attention, not all of it good. Typically, it’s been for the two-male, one-woman combinations where both men penetrate the woman from either end. It doesn’t have to be that combo though - explore with any genital or gender combination. If you are interested in this position however, it’s super important that you respect, check-in and get consent before, during and after, from the middle person, as they are in a very vulnerable position. The spit roast has a long history of being derogatory, so play carefully with this one.

6. Double Penetration

The double penetration can mean a few things. It might be the same as the spit roast (explained above) or could involve a vulva owner being penetrated vaginally and anally at the same time. This position generally works well with the vulva owner sitting in cowgirl position on one partner, while the other partner penetrates them anally in a doggie style position. Just like I mentioned in the spit roast section, it’s super important to check in with the vulva owner during this one as double penetration puts them in a super vulnerable position. Positions like this are only okay if everyone consents and is having a good time.

7. Horizontal Train

The horizontal train looks somewhat similar to the train (explained above), but instead of the middle person being penetrated, they actually receive oral sex, and then pass on that favour to the 3rd person. They can do this on their hands and knees or get comfy lying on the floor.

8. Focusing on one person

This position will give one lucky person all the attention. It involves the two other partners focusing all their stimulation on the one person. This might look like one person giving them head, while the other person rubs their breasts. Or perhaps one person is having penetrative sex with them while the other rubs their clitoris or scrotum. There’s truly a million ways you can do this one!

9. One person watching the other person being pleasured

If you are curious about BDSM, you can give your exhibitionistic or voyeuristic tendencies a flex with this one. The name says it all – have two people of the threesome hook up, while the third person sits back and enjoys the show. This can be a big turn on, as many people get off when they know they are being watched. It’s probably the next best thing to being part of a threesome.

10. Penetration Train

This is a great one for getting maximum body contact. Get yourselves into a spoon train and have the last person in the train penetrate the middle one, while the middle one penetrates the first one. This is a great position to try with all penis/vulva combinations – just strap on your dildo or work with what you’ve got, and you’ll have yourself a super intimate threesome position.


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